We are a growing nation. Of course, our dependency upon sustenance will always be a need. However, we need to remember that what we need isn’t always as it appears.
Enforcing a Standard
We’ve heard about drug testing being implemented for food stamps qualification, and overall that is good. Since there is more demand for government assistance now, we create the growing awareness of what needs to happen in order to be more in “alignment” with our allocation of resources. Meaning, if we weren’t having a shortage of jobs, we wouldn’t necessarily see the need to become more responsible with reducing the number of abusers of the system. That’s the point, isn’t it? We want to enforce a standard of responsibility, but we must remember that there is a double-edged sword involved.
The responsibility that we enforce to abusers is one way to create accountability. However, I raise the issue that we (who aren’t on food stamps) need to remember to be accountable as well. What do I mean?
It’s easy to condemn those who are on food stamps. It’s easy to lump them all together into one big pile of “drug addicts.” But seriously, with a 74% increase of people on food stamps since 2007, clearly, a vast majority of them are NOT drug addicts. They are normal people doing their best to improve their situation.
The thing I am pointing out here is our need to be responsible with our perceptions. It is incredibly easy to take a look at an issue, and deem it as inappropriate, wrong or generalize with a judgment. But I promise you, the very fabric within the way we perceive and judge is an inherently large and yet overlooked part of our human decision to determine what a “problem” really is.
Our condemnation and generalization of our collective problems is usually an after-thought until it affects us personally. Once we are part of a growing demographic, then the importance of an issue rises because it has become part of our immediate concern. Needless to say, the sweeping labels that we tend to make (I’m guilty too) are more accurately due to our need to feel better than the situation than it is due to our need to be accountable to remaining responsible with our opinions.
The simple words that we use will either hold us in bondage, or move us into freedom. We get something from making condemnations. We get a very small “lift.” What we aren’t always aware of is that those words pull us further into seduction consciousness. If we get enough momentum rolling, we lose all contact with our power, we’re complaining about everything, and we’re wondering why things aren’t getting better for us. The answer is we’re not taking responsibility of our power. We’ve been overpowered without knowing it.
Let us be responsible with the way we speak about our economy, about others, and about ourselves. It is crucial, and it can be a challenge. Let us be mindful how we express our thoughts and perceptions, and remember that “how we see things” is an integral part of the way we see ourselves, and an integral part of our belief systems. Pragmatically speaking, we only reveal something about ourselves when we speak. Do you see why coming from a place of compassion and responsibility is of the utmost importance in creating solutions? We have to agree that solutions exist, and we have to agree that we need to be more responsible in simply how we give back to the whole what we
perceive. By our own words alone, we either condemn ourselves or we free ourselves.
As I write this, I have just come out of a small stint of seduction consciousness myself, where I had noticed that my words were gaining momentum in the wrong direction for several days. And that “lift” of seduction that I received
from doing so was my belief in fear and giving up, even though I seemed to get something from it.
It doesn’t matter how many times we give up, or fall into seduction. It really doesn’t. It only matters how many times we agree to pull ourselves out of it. Time doesn’t matter. You could live your whole life being “bad” and wake up at the end of it, and that would be good enough (and your spirit would thank you).
Speak What’s Going Right
But it can be better. Food stamps are irrelevant. Let’s pay closer attention and focus on what is going right about what’s happening, and we’ll start creating change. We forget our power every time we invest in problems instead of solution thoughts. Don’t be seduced by those who add fuel to problems, thinking that digging deeper into them will create a solution. Solutions happen when we agree to think the same way about problems – they don’t really exist.
The economy will right itself. Things aren’t always as they seem. Don’t fear. Live with courage. Keep getting back up. Keep believing. Recession is only judged as “bad” if your idea of growth is limited to “getting more.” True growth isn’t about “getting more.” It’s about getting rid of what isn’t needed. And what is true about you will remain.
During the publishing process of The Acceptance Guidebook, I came to learn a lot of things about me. Granted, the book is a reflection of 6 years worth of growth. Yet, in the 2 years that it has taken to publish it, even now, the book is a part of my past. It doesn’t mean that what lies within it is any less applicable but, rather, it indicates that I can see myself now with a little more clarity than I could then. Life is a never-ending growth process.
In all of my past years of searching and finding, there were still subconscious patterns; parts of me that were looking for self-validation. As a mind looking inward upon itself, you can imagine the kind of rabbit hole that might create. For example, I could “dig, dig, dig,” but not necessarily get closer to what real acceptance really is.
Short vs. Long Term
Placeholders to acceptance seem to be what we think we need to do in order to gain “higher ground” with ourselves. In our short-term growth, we aim to teach ourselves something so that we can practice learning it for ourselves in a way that is comfortable for us. Yet, long-term growth doesn’t always happen over a weekend-long seminar. It happens over years of reflection, over years of experience that culminates in which we see for ourselves the long standing patterns of our personal human condition entering into our awareness. In our personal vigilance, we get to watch our neuroses slowly become uprooted, not because of anything we did, per se, but because of what we’ve been able to observe and accept about ourselves over time and through experience.
It’s all “In-House”
Some of the most challenging parts about the pursuit of “spiritual growth” are that the parts that we wish to overcome or discover are always inherent within us. What is inherent within us we seek outside of us with a story. We can live a lifelong pursuit, and yet never see a particular desired result because what we wanted to leave behind, we unknowingly took with us; and what we wanted to be, we already were.
Do you see how “acceptance” is an utter key to growth? All of the rest is just repetitive details.
We play games with ourselves. I’ve played a grand game with myself. It hasn’t been a bad thing it’s just been my story. To me, my best meant figuring everything out that I felt was necessary. With enough understanding, I thought, I would gain the keys to the kingdom when I already had them. Why did I keep trying to prove to myself what was already established within me?
A Major Game Changer
It can take years to become a mental expert at any subject of our choosing, and even longer to extract that identity from within us once we’ve believed that the identity was who we were. When we are ready, it need take only an instant to undo years upon years of self-imposed agendas with simple acceptance. We see this all of the time when a movie hero undergoes a major transformation like when Darth Vadar became “good” at the end of Return of the Jedi. There was something that he finally accepted about himself, which undoubtedly led him back to love and unification, melting away a lifetime of pain and resistance – enough to change what would have been his future.
I’ve always felt it funny just how much the ego keeps love from me, and how I’ve told myself that I am empowered countless times, hoping that the words would stick. Sometimes they have, for a while. But we each must discover what acceptance means for us on our own, and when we feel it, we feel rest and at peace. The deeper the acceptance, the more transformed our life becomes. After all, every action is based upon what we believe about ourselves, and what we accept about ourselves. Any inkling of change in self-acceptance can be a major game changer.
A lifetime of work can forever change in a blink of an eye based on one simple yet profound experience of self-acceptance, and the road never ends. It only becomes more glorious and graceful. The Acceptance Guidebook aims to help you shorten your time on the road to self-acceptance.
“People don’t think; they stereotype. They don’t conclude; they categorize. They don’t calculate; they assume.”~Harry Beckwith
This is a sobering quote from marketing expert, Harry Beckwith. He is very insightful and authentic and I highly recommend his marketing books. I pulled this particular quote out of his book, “You, Inc.” because it resonates with me in a very specific way.
The quote above represents a basic fact about our psychological priorities. When we’re busy or overwhelmed, for example, we don’t “have time to deal with” certain things. “Not having time” is rarely - if ever - based on actually not having time. It is based upon priority. It doesn’t mean we’re bad people. It just means that when we have stuff going on (especially if stressful), we don’t put as much attention onto other things. We sometimes brush them off with annoyance.
What does this say about consciousness? The above quote might imply that we are a collection of priorities, a collection of programmable responses. Does that sound crude? Without “presence,” without “the master in the house,” we are very much running on autopilot. We show up, and yet, no one appears to be driving behind the wheel.
When the mind alone is driving the wheel, there are many more judgments made. This may give light to how little actual thinking we might do on a daily basis. “Routine” is a superb example. On its own, it’s fine. But when the routine means that we “check out” and are no longer “present” in the body, routine can become a one way ticket to hell.
It doesn’t matter what we do, but it does matter “how” we do it. The results are staggeringly different when we are “present” and choose to truly engage versus when we choose to categorize and stereotype because “there just isn’t enough time.” Of course there isn’t enough time! There’s never enough time to do everything. We never will do everything. But…when we do have an urge to “take the time,” I suggest we do it and not brush it off. This is an engagement of our “presence.” This brings our spirit back; it wakes us up inside.
The problem we have is that our mind wants to decide, “because I don’t have the time to do that activity ALL of the time, I won’t do it ANY of the time.” Thus the psychological priority has been given, and the likelihood that we will engage in that activity will lessen because we have further buried the necessity for it. Do you see it? This is the psychological priority of presence in motion. This eventually turns a human being into a drone of conditioned responses. Alternatively, learning how to listen to those urges of feeling instead of smothering them with priority can bring about feelings of freedom and feelings of connection to spirit.
Listening for what’s being called to us from within will guide us into acting when it is time to act. We need not manage it. We need only listen and respond when we feel the call, and trust that the flow is leading us into a higher quality experience, which ultimately, creates miracles of change, and releases us from the need to prioritize what we think we don’t have time for.